So we're 7 months deep into 2017, and what exactly have I concluded?
Number one, I haven't written enough. I'm working to change that in the latter half of the year.
Number two, I have a number of worries about my country, but I've definitely taken the time to stand up, speak out and take action. However, this post isn't too focused on that, and I feel that the latest podcast episode spoke on a number of those worries to the point of exhaustion. It's also why you haven't had a new episode in a while - I've been quite the worker bee and simply haven't had the proper time to dedicate like I had hoped. With that said, Season 2 isn't over by any means. Sorry folks, I miss you too! The hiatus will be over sooner than you think.
Today, I wanted to get some thoughts out about dialogue and more specifically, how you can expect ME to engage with you as well as what I won't tolerate.
I love dialogue. I love comments. I love getting a solid feel for what those in my circle think when it comes to the issues of the day. However, more importantly, I'm a firm believer in that you should never stop learning. I find that, whether digitally or in person, these conversations are imperative to growing and becoming a better human being. Even the ratchet conversations can bring about something worthwhile, but I digress.
I'm all for admitting when I'm wrong, taking the L in a situation or humbling myself by confessing that I'm ignorant of an issue. However, lately I've noticed a few troubling trends in these conversations, and it's frustrated me so much that it's kind of the root cause to my writing this post today:
- sidestepping the issue
- derailing the conversation
- missing the point*
- meme-ify or joke away the topic
*This one can happen easily, and I'm all for helping to fix it, but I think a lot of it happening in the first place is due to our culture becoming TL;DR, which is fine, but commenting anyway? Not so much.
In regards to the other points, my goal isn't to "police language" but it's to at least shine a light on the fact that they're getting in the way of generating productive conversations. Whether it's on Facebook, here, texts or in my house, my intention is to have a productive dialogue when I bring up current events and the like.
With that said, there's absolutely nothing wrong with saying nothing and scrolling onward. In the words of someone notable, "shutting the fuck up is free!" However, I always encourage questions. if you don't understand, ask! Sometimes I think that there's fear in asking questions, and as someone that really wants to build a community of purpose-driven folks, I would be remiss to not open the door to that. We don't know everything, I surely do not, but I definitely want it to be known that we can BOTH learn along the way.
For those of you that want to belittle the conversations about shit that matters or try or shoo it away by being facetious or just a downright asshole, I want you to know a few things:
1) it won't work
2) it will be called out
3) the fact that you do this speaks VOLUMES about you and your blatant disregard for the individuals in the conversation
There's a time and a place for the joking, but there's no time or place for blatant dismissal of those adding to the conversation.
Just try implementing peace and respect, and the rest will follow. We're all in this together.